A Decade of Love..
There are those very few times when you want to write a lot but thoughts do not come easily when you start penning. The feeling of ‘ already shared a lot’ overrides on ‘there is still so much to share’ thought. It’s hard not because there are no thoughts but because sometimes, even written words cannot express it all.
Today, when a decade is behind us, memories are all over my mind. Those from almost every single year, those little highlights from our life together, those moments of milestones and then those mundane days when there was nothing special yet being together was special. A chance encounter got us together. Sometimes, I wonder what if I hadn’t met him. What if we hadn’t taken that bus ride to Mysore together? And then I think, if I hadn’t, I couldn’t have been as happy as I am today.
Ten years have gone by in the blink of an eye.
There have many long walks and short trips. We have watched many sunsets and few sunrises together. I point at the Moon and he says, “Hmmm”. We have been to beaches and we have been waiting to see the Himalayas.
I have shopped and he has saved. While I continue to eye gadgets and bring them home, he keeps figuring out which one serves what function.
We are different. Between those unique personality traits, there are two individuals who found love in each other. Those two, who saw that laughter and tears can be shared. Who laughed it off when annoyed and controlled anger to avoid any pain. We have travelled together, laughed together and learnt many lessons of life together. We know each other’s strengths and we are still getting to know each other. With time, things in love life settle down and you get comfort in company. There is admiration in the differences. Most of the times, unspoken but it is evident.
As I look back, I see both of us have changed as individuals for good. We continue to learn from each other and help each other see things in different light. Sometimes, I need a nudge and sometimes he needs to think differently.
We talk of future and we see ourselves travelling and seeing the world. We see writing better blog posts and buying stocks that do good when markets open. We are both lazy bums who love being on our respective couches but no one admits. We both don’t like cooking and both accept. We start our day by discussing who is making the tea and end it by who is getting the milk ready.
Every relationship needs a bit of nurturing and we nurture ours too. We know there will be bad days at work. We know that sometimes it’s okay to not share and get some space. We know that we have different interests and we respect each other’s work and hobbies. We sometimes divide the chores and sometimes do it together.
There is nothing like a perfect relationship and ten years have taught me that. I have learnt that people think differently but they don’t love each other for similarities. They love for the similarities of those core values that they individually believe in.
It feels like yesterday when I got on a bus to Mysore with a friend’s friend. Not very long ago. Exactly a decade today.