Can I give you something for your impatience?

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  1. Ivan Jordon says:

    Patience is a virtue.Remember that good things are come to those who waits.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Well, possibly you had a utopian society in your mind while writing this post. Unfortunately, we live in a rough world which tries to wear the cloak of compassion towards others but realizes that the fit is not right, so it is altered to their own size.

    That’s what we all have –altered to fit compassion, altered to fit sympathy, and of course altered to fit patience. Now what would you do when sitting in a plane in the middle of a three seater. The aisle one has started to pull out his luggage & the one on the window seat wants to get out. Tricky situation – should I follow my belief in being patient or just say what the heck & start creating space for my own hand luggage to be pulled off? Besides, what the hell am I doing sitting when everyone is up & about to leave – is the second thought. The clothed one feels shy when all are naked in the group. That’s the way the world is. Of course, they cannot leave till the plane finds a bay but at least they are preparing well in advance. My father taught me to always be prepared. So I should revisit the preparing part, right?

    Since our childhood, we are taught – you have to come first, no one will remember the runners’ up. Should it not apply for the long queues everywhere?

    Ok, picture this – Indian bank – If two persons jumped up the counter who were never in the queue & are still getting entertained by the banker, should I be still following the drama? Everyone has a reason – teenager has to reach college in time for the lecture, that 30ish woman has to deposit the money ASAP & move to office. Senior citizen has to be served first. Since I do not have a valid excuse, I should wait for my turn plus 4-5 odd entries given preference on various accounts.

    In the recent demonetization drive, I was the one who stood again for hours for my turn. I was also the one to get beat up by security guys & policemen when I raised voice against few people not waiting their turn. Their reason was that I was creating ruckus. I am the common man. Mango people as one movie says. The truth is that the yellow line exists only for fools like me. For everyone else, there’s the saying “time & tide waits for none.”

    I am just blabbering. Your post is very meaningful. It’s in my nature to find faults. I am sorry.
    BTW, I am back.

    • Parul Thakur says:

      I’m glad you are back. Since you remain anonymous and I really enjoy reading your views, I have assume that you are my friend. One who wants to read what I write and also share what (s)he thinks.
      Coming back to the topic, I know what you mean. I have been there thinking what do I do when everyone else is getting in the queue when the gates aren’t opened yet. Initially, I would follow the herd but now, I read until I see the land (wo)man standing and then get in last. I use my time judiciously. So for those who pull out their baggage, I can only say that they have a lot of strength to hold it when the plan hasn’t found the bay. I prefer to take care of my back.
      Well, talk about ATMs, I have argued too and stayed on track. Yes luck got my many times when I was the one to get cash that ran out but I what can I do? Strange are the ways of economy.
      Thanks for stopping by and keep visiting! 🙂

  3. Uma says:

    So damn true. These are exactly the things about people that annoy me too. Queueing up in the aircraft before even as the aircraft awaits the aerobridge is beyond my understanding. And, people who just come and stand before you in the line at supermarkets as though they never saw you and expect to just get away with it wants me to scream at them. Phew! yes, they indeed teach me to breathe in and breathe out slooowly. Lovely post, Parul!
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  4. Trablogger says:

    Very relevant questions for Indians! Especially in the busy traffic.

  5. Patience is a virtue many teach but few practice. It requires discipline too and has its own rewards. And it would make life way more easier than we can imagine. If only we give it a try.

  6. Soumya says:

    This is why I love you and this is why I need people like you in my life.

    I do not do any of those things you mentioned above. Thankfully. But my kind of impatience is when it comes to people. I cannot stand tedious people and the time and effort they take to do small things with the intent of annoying others. This is what gets on my nerves.
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  7. True Parul! patience is a must, especially in a country like India where the population is high and people try everything to jump lines. I remember picking a fight in a Temple in Tamilnadu when we visited last time. I was ready to punch, it was so hopeless – In Temple!

  8. Jess says:

    I love your last paragraph, so much! This is a huge pet peeve of mine, people believing that their time is somehow more valuable than everyone else’s. I also get annoyed by a lack of kindness in these situations… Being nasty won’t make a wait shorter. If everyone could just take a deep breath and be a little more patient, just imagine what a nice world it would be!

  9. Rekha says:

    Absolutely right! Truly grateful for this one quality in myself. I understand how annoying it is when people break lines, scream their lungs out in a silence zone, rush past someone in a bank/ATM queue. I get all the more irritated when old people misuse this senior citizen tag that they have instead of just requesting. The only time when I am impatient is when there is clutter in the house or while handling the sibling squabbles. Seriously need to meditate and get that extra ounce of patience for handling these girls.
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  10. Breathe in and breathe out. That’s what everyone needs to do.check in counters school feees lines and billing counters have loads of such impatient ones who are vocal about their displeasure at having to wait.

  11. Esha says:

    I meet them all the time, Parul. It is exasperating and irritating. And, if I’m really in a bad mood, I give them a earful right there and then. It’s one of those things that people will always continue to do no matter what they are told. But we need to put them back in their place EVERY SINGLE TIME! How else do you drill this sense into them, tell me???

  12. Yeah! I know a few people like those. I think demonetisation brought the out like bugs from the woodwork, everyone wanting a free pass.
    Lovely way you have expressed it. And I just hate the airline guys but maximum people are rushing out. Maybe they should announce that please sit down or we will not open the doors!!
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  13. Rajiv says:

    It happens mostly in India .! Now when I travel abroad , I find the difference . Btw ! Parul , you posted a very old Pic depicting your patience . I could recognise your pic.

  14. Eli says:

    Hahaha – that is, I am thinking sometimes a global phenomenon… But some people are better at hiding their impatience than others. I have always been told I can be read like an open book….. ehhh, so a bit impatienced I guess… Growing up we were always told patience is a virtue… well not so sure. Enjoyed this read, dear Parul:-)
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  15. Traci York says:

    Here, here, Parul! I completely agree – it happens around here as well (New England), and it’s so frustrating to see people acting this way. Good to know there are still people like yourself who remind us to be patient! 😀
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  16. Cathy Graham says:

    Oh, I hate it when people are so impatient to the point of being rude like that, butting in line or they have to get out of their seat on the airplane before it even stops. Good post to remind us of the importance of patience. I have also encountered types who were impatient with me and my introverted way of pausing to think before I talk. Often they would get annoyed with me as if I was slow and stupid. I used to hate that in the workplace where rushing around and getting things done in a big hurry was seen as being very efficient and productive. Slow and steady wins the race in my opinion. I wish the world would take a deep breath and just slow down, stopping to smell the roses along the way. Sorry for all the cliches!
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    • Parul Thakur says:

      I agree with you Cathy and I’m like you. I too am slow in my own ways. It bothers me sometimes but it’s okay I think. The pace at which we run are ours and it’s no body’s business to comment. Isn’t it? Thank you for sharing your thoughts Cathy. I’m glad you shared your views.

  17. MALINY says:

    I am basically an impatient woman. I have to try hard to be remain patient, thereby maintaining my sanity. It is good to know that you are a patient woman, Parul. Yes, let us all learn to breathe in and breathe out and remain patient.

  18. Deepa says:

    Oh! this was really needed. But don’t know how many people are going to read it and also follow it. It is a major problem in our country. People just want to get and do everything first and before others. Its high time we all learn how to stand in a queue and wait for our turns.
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  19. Shanx says:

    Same applying to people who drive past you for the toll line by trying to get in the middle of line and the herd following them making it chaotic (resulting in lot of horns) and sometime sad deadlocks. Emergencies are always respected but this is at places usual 🙁 Also, to the people going that extra step and leaning (almost) falling on the railway track to see if the train is arriving 😀 On the same note, (if I am not going too far, let me know Parul :D) people who check their watch like in seconds. (I do understand that they love their watch 😀 :D)

  20. I loved this dose of wisdom you gave, gave for those suffering from impatience!:)

  21. In our country where there is humongous populations and limited resources, it is a common norm that one has to fight for everything and patience will act as a curse. Nobody, here, respects others space whether it is in relationships or in queues or the waiting areas. North is far more worse than South in the patience parameter. I have received rebukes many times in my childhood with ‘Khadi rahegi to khadi hi reh jayeg’. The last time I had to board a flight from Bangalore to Delhi, there was announcement for the passengers with seat numbers 15-30 to board the flight first. The flight had got 1 hour late and people were so impatient to board the flight that they had blocked the passage entry. Neither could they go since the attendants were not allowing them for their seat numbers and nor the other passengers could go because the entry was blocked. I had to push my way out with D. Unpleasant experience.

    • Parul Thakur says:

      I know what you mean and I agree. I am mostly talking about places where following rules would make life easier. These are people who have the money to board a flight and read gate numbers but they can read what staying behind the gate means. Population is not going to come down so we need to still manage with what we have got and pushing and shoving will not take us ahead.
      Thanks Anamika. I wish more people realised the importance of staying patient.

  22. Anonymous says:

    I so agree with you. A long time ago I decided to “practice patience” after getting so upset at a department store clerk I couldn’t let it go for days. Patience has save my sanity and kept my blood pressure in check at times.

  23. Bellybytes says:

    Whenever I find myself being elbowed out or being breathed over in a queue, I politely ask the person who is dying to get in front of me if he will repeat this while we are waiting in line for YamaRaj. You should see the shocked looks I get. It works most of the time. The person shamefacedly backs off and waits behind me.
    Of course sometimes the person is rude and agressive and tells me that if I am so high handed, I should have my own private transport/lunch or whatever it is we are waiting for.

  24. Shilpi says:

    Nice post Parul. People are losing patience and creating unnecessary stress at public areas. While they want to copy maximum from west I hope discipline is first thing on their list.

  25. Obsessivemom says:

    O I’ve seen this brand of people and I find them most annoying. In fact I am amazed at their false sense of entitlement – what makes them think that they can reach out to the counter first when five other people are waiting?
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  26. Shilpa says:

    i hate when people do such things !! Nice post ya..

  27. Shilpa says:

    Such a nice post ! Everybody is busy now a days .. just rushing &rushing.. I sometimes want to stop them n give them a lecture 😡

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