F for Female Foeticide

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  1. Shilpa Garg says:

    A couple of years ago, when a friend, the eldest bahu in the family, delivered her first child,a baby girl, all the relatives who were there at the hospital actually mourned the baby’s arrival, made life miserable for my friend and for a year, didnt celebrate any special day (festivals) for the child. It was only after the second year, things improved. Seeing such discrimination from close quarters was shocking!

  2. When I look at the skewed gender ratio in some states in India, all I can do is shake my head in despair. I find myself wondering — do all these people who are killing off their female foetuses purely because of their gender realise that this is the gender that has to carry on the human race? I think once they eliminate all women and realise that men cannot actually procreate, only then will they realise their mistake! And it’ll be too late.

  3. You know I read in a recent article that the chromosome found in men’s sperm required for fertilization is reducing every few million years and will eventually cease to exist one day. But even so that won’t stop women from having kids since science has found ways for women to self-reproduce. I think I know who will have the last laugh then 😀 Beautiful post !

  4. shwetadave09 says:

    A land of strong culture values then results in hypocrisy but times are changing Parul, wish a better tomorrow.

  5. Hemant says:

    Dropping for the first time from a-to-z challenge and I must say that you have an amazing blog (design parse, yet to read all the articles)

    This one is thought provoking. I am not sure why some people are so obsessed about having a boy child, some claim that he would take forward the family name(I mean ‘Vansh’); but they forget the logic that Vansh doesn’t matter if your son or even daugter are good for nothing. We are not running an empire that we need King after kings……and as if empires hadn’t been run by Queens before.

    But I believe trend is changing, I am seeing baby girls being born and my relatives & friends have been so happy & proud to see girl child.

  6. shanayatales says:

    In-spite of knowing this very well, it was heartbreaking to read. Like you said, this is extremely prevalent in educated upper middle class families too. When I had a boy, this is what a lot of my distant relatives told me : “Oh thank god, you got a boy. Your husband is the only son in his family. This way the family lineage will continue. I even fasted and prayed that you get a son.” To say that I was annoyed and aggravated, would be putting it mildly.
    Then there are subtle biases too. I addressed one such in one of my posts a while back. Do check it out when you get the time. *Do not treat your daughter like your son*

  7. Kelly Martin says:

    I could not agree more, a tough subject, but one that needs to be approach with balance and understanding.

  8. bassiswati says:

    In spite of so much awareness still incidents of female foeticide are on rise.
    And the sad part is it is prevalent even in educated families.
    People need to come out of the shell and view things with a broad horizon.

  9. Vineeta Srivastava says:

    A very nail biting topic . People say they don’t differentiate between male and female child but actually they do . I strongly believe that only women can erase this wide gap .I never fast for my son and husband . For me daughter and wife are respectively equal . And you know who made me to understand this ? —- my husband .

  10. Its mind-blowing to know this still happens in this day and age.

  11. Eli says:

    Love you theme, and this powerful post was superb! Its heartbreaking – and you write about it so well! Hats off to you for rising awareness:-)

  12. G Angela says:

    A lot needs to be done in terms of changing the mindset of people especially in India, women are not respected; and they are treated like second class citizens; some women are harassed for having given birth to female babies, and women are held responsible for determining the sex of the child. Its a sad state of affair, a need for awareness on a massive scale is required to bring in change … education is the key for women themselves, who give away the power to be abused and misused…

  13. yes, a change of consciousness is required. I like you idea of saving for her education, not a dowry

  14. Spot on Parul — education is the key. I hope we are able to see the day when girls are valued just as much as boys. I watched the documentary ‘India’s Daughter’ yesterday and the comments by the two defense lawyers was appalling. These are supposedly educated men but their mindset is as uneducated and regressive as you can get.

    • Thanks S! When I watched that documentary, I had the same thoughts. Do you remember one lawyer said he would douse his daughter with kerosene and burn her if she into pre-marital sex? That’s how they think and that’s the problem – how to educate the educated?

  15. Rajlakshmi says:

    More than the law I feel it’s the people who need to change. Without a change in mentality I don’t think laws would help. It makes me sick to even think someone doing this to their own child.

  16. Suzy says:

    Shocking to hear that female foetuses are just dumped like trash. How sad that society feels that girls are a burden. Good post.

  17. If only the world actually understood the value of a Woman. 🙁 … How can a girl be a burden to anyone. They are just the most beautiful blessing a family could ever ask for.

  18. Malavikka says:

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  19. It’s horrible. How can anyone think that a girl child is a liability? Girl babies are blessings. And you said it right, provide them education, make them independent and they’ll soar high like a bird. I think most of the problems come because of Patriarchy and how I wish that I could change how a girl is thought to be a burden and parents want to wash their hands off after they get their daughter married. Such a moving post, I hope that day comes when girls and boys are given equal opportunities.

  20. Your footnote captured what I wanted to say, Parul. Some of it was so difficult to read that I had tears in my eyes. TO think that people can actually stoop to this level of indecency is unimaginable. I am proud of you, my friend, for bringing these stories to the forefront. <3

  21. What a profound topic to choose! I hope many, many people read this, it needs to be known.
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  22. Its a stark reality in India – a patriachial land. Education is the only solution

  23. Shalzzz says:

    The opening line- Bang on! That’s exactly how I react every single time I hear of this! This is ridiculous and I realy don’t see any reason behind this! Sigh! Brilliant post again!

  24. swathishenoy says:

    This is one of the thing that disgusts me! Who says a girl cant take care of her parents once she is married off? She can and she will! I have seen many instances of it. But sadly, the idea of linage and moksha if a son lights the pyre, has been deeply ingrained in the minds of people that it is hard to make them see reason!

  25. And we are a God fearing society. We celebrate 9 days of navratri twice in a year doing kanya pujan in it but we do not let our daughters to be born and can be inhuman enough to feed aborted female foetuses to the dogs. Which black hole are we heading into? :-[

  26. psharmarao says:

    Well your intention is at the right place and so is the issue you have taken up but I cringe at the first line, because this deification of women is also dehumanising and is no way working towards their favour. Girls need not be goddesses or witches just equal humans.
    Well written.

  27. MelissaM says:

    Wow. I didn’t realize this practice still occurred. We Americans take a great deal for granted. Is your point of view considered radical? Is it common among the younger generation?

  28. Alex Hurst says:

    That is so sad to hear about… I knew it was common in China, but not in India. Of course China is already seeing the problem with this sort of selecting birthing, when men out-populating women 4:1. In a culture where marriage is almost a requirement, this obviously poses a problem, and I’ve actually heard now in some articles that having a girl is considered a blessing because she will be “in high demand”…. which causes another problem all on its own. Of course, the real problem is the very framework a woman is viewed under: that is, property. That needs to change.

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  29. vinodinii says:

    While all these gory things happen around us there are some expecting parents who pray to be blessed by a girl child and are often not so lucky. Ask parents of bratty boys like mine 😉

  30. Debbie D. says:

    This is truly horrifying! Such disgusting practices must be stopped! Have any of these evil doers considered the fact that it is only females who can give birth? Are they planning to wipe out the human race??! How about working on eliminating such archaic practices as treating women like chattel? Dowries? Seriously? In the 21st Century? Educated women can look after their families as well as any man.

  31. Zalka Csenge says:

    I am learning so much from your blog, about such important issues. Thank you.

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  32. Yes, I gasped when I read this, “Female foetuses have been found dumped in rivers wrapped in black polythene bags and in a horrible incident reported in 2011 in Maharashtra, she was also fed to dogs.” That is indeed horrific! Is it possible they get rid of the dowry, would that help?

  33. Well written. I like your theme. Shall come back for it 🙂

  34. It’s mind-boggling how cultures have evolved to this. Or is this mild compared to what used to be. in any case, the world will not know peace until women have rights. Everywhere. It’s a fact. Thanks for standing on this side. Peace.

    • Cindy – I think things are mild now but in pockets this is a still big thing. Very subtly people do share their wish for a male child but they have no choice than to show they are happy when a girl child is born.

  35. hopingonhope says:

    You have nailed the spot. I am woman, and I am proud that I am one!

  36. Nagzilla says:

    Heartbreaking, and I’m surprised they haven’t seen more statistics on how female foeticide has impacted modern day China. I’ve seen multiple stories on how the one-child policies of the eighties have skewed population demographics as that generation has grown to adulthood.

    But it is more than a legal change, a cultural shift to value the female does need to be made. And sadly, as we still see here in the US today, women still are not valued as they should be.

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