S for Stereotype
Stereotypes are not a new thing. They have been around for quite some time and we have all come across stereotypes or to say phrases that we use without even realizing that it’s more of a bias than an experience. They subtly cloud our judgement and in extreme cases, many people take important decisions of life based on such stereotypes.
She was asked to leave sports and focus on learning how to cook. After all she was growing up fast and girls don’t play kabaddi that too out in the Sun with men. She would be married soon and who wants a wife or daughter-in-law who knows various tricks of kabaddi but not the name of various spices and legumes. If she had continued, she would have given a tough fight to international opponents may have brought a gold home. If only, she was allowed to play..
She was the bright and was given the best of education. She joined work and was looking forward to a great career ahead. Her first manager at work felt she wasn’t good at programming as much as her male peers were. She was not given enough challenging assignments or the support to learn more and hone her skills. She was asked to leave early each day cos she was a woman while men on her team brainstormed to find solutions. As the projects became easier for her, she started losing interest. She quit one day thinking she wasn’t good enough. If only, she was allowed to learn at work..
She was in love and they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together. She was older than him and taller too. The guy’s mother did not think they were a good match. The bride should be younger than the groom and shorter too. They tried their best but his parents never agreed. With a lot of pain, they had to call it quits and end something which could have helped them both lead a happier life. If only, she was not judged on her age and height..
She loved to dress up, wore red lip color and was always taking strides in heels. The men in the locality thought she was involved in business and there were gossips behind her back. When she went to college, they thought she is fixing clients. If only, she was let her be who she was..
Be it driving, taking time to dress up, trekking, cooking, dancing, dieting, solving analytical problems or whatever, women are labeled based on the stereotypes associated. Fighting them each day is not easy. Justifying all that time and again keeps pushing them back. If it is a skill, women can learn as much as men. If it is a profession, women can succeed as much as men. If it is choosing the right partner, women can take their own decisions. If only, women are not stereotyped..
Both women and men face numerous stereotypes and because I have writing about women I am not calling out what all men go through when they are judged.
I am blogging from A to Z during April (#417 on the list) and the theme I have chosen is set on women. Some of the posts will be here for you to know and some will be to reflect and accept. Share your thoughts and let me know how things are going. There is always a room for improvement.