With Facebook timeline being flooded with silly online quizzes like “Which celebrity should be your roommate”, “Which is the ideal city for you to live”, “Who were you in your past life”, the day is not far when just for Indian users, a quiz will go viral on “What kind of girl you are”.
A female could use her Facebook login, allow the app to access all her online data, post and comment on her behalf and share with her connections the final result. Below are 12 images and you can see for yourself and decide if you are a bad girl or a good one.
Judging girls is normal – and more so if the girl under observation is the one who breaks stereotypes. This poster shows how easily we can label girls as bad and this is not an exhaustive list at all. There are many more additional pointers that can be added to this list. A bad girl is also one who
- Talks to much
- Is friends with boys
- Comes home late at night
- Laughs loud
- Can’t cook
- Argues with others
- Wears short dresses and shows her legs
- Shares a ride with boys on a bike/car
I’m sure if I leave this list open many more can be added. We are a country where on one hand we are working on Mission Hazaar and on the other hand more and more women are being gang raped and killed. Sometimes, I fail to understand that even after 68 years of Independence, “Beti Bachao Beti Padhao” had to be launched. Education is a right and neither Beti nor Beta should be deprived of it. But this is what lack of education does. A girl is judged on how she walks and what she wears. Not by her qualifications or the traits she possesses.
There are still cities in India where people will look at you twice and continue to do that with mouth wide open if you ride a two wheeler and sport jeans. What adds fuel to the fire are our TV shows that show the same thing and these soaps get awarded as the best entertaining ones with the most TRPs. Our female lead actor is dropped to the college by her younger brother every day, she walks towards her class with zero confidence, books close to her chest and eyes on the ground. This same girl is married to a guy from an affluent family without her consent and then she transforms into an ideal daughter-in-law. Her father tells her that after kanyadaan, she is the pride of her in-laws family and if she has to ever leave that house, it should be when she leaves the world. She is the same DIL who does everything possible under the Sun to keep her husband’s family happy yet she has no rights to step out of the house alone. She then one day becomes a mother and expects her daughter-in-law to do the same thing she did two decades back.
I think this is a vicious circle and unless we start respecting and stop judging, even after another 100 years of Independence, nothing will change. It starts from the parents who are happy to bring a daughter in this world, the ones who teach their sons that all human beings should be respected and women are not objects. It starts with a little more trust and yes, understanding that no girl is bad!
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Thank you!
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Can’t really fathom the thinking of those so called moral guardians of society who think that women can be labelled as bad or good based on their whims and fantasies.
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Exactly!! Eating noodles and talking on cell phones invites a rape. Gosh! Unbelievable!
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Oh that was among the most bizarre stuff I have ever come across..
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Well said .It sure is a vicious circle And hard to break as girls themselves have the similar mentality. The above chart is not how males judge us … most of the words from the chart are uttered from a female mouth . And one more chart is needed the Good Girl chart having-
One who never use a lipstick…at least before marriage.
Do not use a fancy umbrella or shades even in harsh sun.
Never talks to her ‘own’ husband in public. (don’t even imagine talking back )
the list is endless….
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Thanks Kokila! Yes, the list is endless.
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Hahaha.. Nice post.. I did a post on this too. Not so descriptive because I lost my speech after looking at it!!
Here: https://aregularindiangirl.wordpress.com/2015/02/19/brace-yourselves-bad-girls/
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All of us had the same feelings looking at the picture. Great you shared!
Thank you for following my blog..I see that we have a lot in common. Good to be connected here 🙂
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The feeling is quite mutual 🙂 We do have a lot in common!!
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Indian soaps are few of the most regressive ones i have ever seen. Children and women who follow these religiously, obviously either accept these ideas unquestioningly or the concept grows on them unconsciously. I feel it is difficult to fight such a huge influence without media and policy makers taking a firm stand! Till then, individual rebellions are the only way!
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Yes, individual rebellions are the way out! Thanks for stopping by Preethi!
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Very true. I agree with you, Parul 🙂
It’s all conditioning & imposing rules & restrictions.
Change begins with you & me.
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Yes, Anita! Change begins with you and me!
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I prefer to be a bad girl then. :I
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Same here!
Thanks for stopping by!
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v correct . i am a teacher in a school of a small city . In my school and meeting with parents i always come across with such remarks for girls .But we should speak .only then change is possible .
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Yes Mum! Totally right! We need to speak up..
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I came across this on FB and we had this poster-bashing session. It was fun really. I mean, to bash those pea brained rats who say things like this. I consider such judgemental people much much much inferior to me.
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Exactly! I agree..
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Moral guardians of the society. They will keep on ranting…every girl is ‘bad’ for being a GIRL ..devoid of Y chromosome!
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You won’t believe this, but evenin Italy when a girl is raped they blame it on her clothes or behaviour… It’s time to stop judging, and the worst thing is that we women often judge one another (out of jealousy, antipathy, competition, prejudice, etc.) while we should support each other more!
Can you tell me about the open hair in India? I never heard of that…
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Omg! I really don’t believe that the comments will be the same in Italy. Open hair is something I had never heard earlier but leaving hair open could be a sign of confidence & self love which per the poster is a trait of bad girl! 😉
Thank you so much for taking time to read and comment. Appreciate it!
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Your blog is very interesting, I always learn something! 🙂
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Thank you so much! Your kind words made me smile and I am happy this blog brought us together 🙂
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Thank you! Sure! I will hop on to your blog write away. Keep visiting!
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Awesome, and do you notice how media images are portrayed explaining what are the DOs and DONTs for women and most media is terrible in south asia, dont get me started on Pakistani media sexism and as long as such operas, drama seriels and movies won’t be stopped completely things won’t change.
BTW, did you see my latest post, its about a feminist man ahead of his time: please see you will get entertained for sure, at http://wp.me/p2Mxgu-Wx
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I agree that the media has a big part to play in all this. I know many Indians who love the shows on Zindagi channel (the one that airs Pakistani serials) and other than acting, nothing else is progressive!
No, I haven’t read your latest post. Will check it out!
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Yes, Pkaistani serials have regressed since last 90s — all the Wahabi agenda seeping through weak, typical down trodden women’s characters and the current drama serial/opera writers seem to be greatly influenced by Ekta Kapoor. It is such a shame Parul, otherwise I really feel that we do cross border collaborations we have enough talent to shame the likes of Hollywood/Cannes etc. In the coming posts on this series, I will cover the FILM/TV aspect more! keep tuned and thanks for listening to my ramblings! always such a pleasure 🙂
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Totally my pleasure!
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