Z for ZNMD
If you are confused, no – that’s not a new word. That’s an acronym for “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara” – You won’t get another life. Word by word, it is so true – all that we do each single day or at any moment knowing that this is the only life we have got, I feel we should strive to make it beautiful and the one that will be remembered.
Petty things, little misunderstandings, ego clashes, following orthodox customs and rituals will not lead us anywhere. Hurting others and being the cause of pain to them will never bring peace to self. All these things become superficial on the judgement day. When your life will flash in front of your eyes, there better be good memories, happy faces and hearty laughter. That is said to have lived a life when we had just one chance.
So what if you were rejected in love? So what if she doesn’t think of you as a life partner? Throwing Acid on her will not get you any closer to the person you loved so much. You will ruin her life and your own too. Rise above all that and let her lead her own life. Ten years from now, life will take you on a path where this anger and pain would seem little in front of your own happy and satisfied life. A lost love doesn’t mean a lost life.
When Boko Haram kidnapped so many school girls, they wanted the Nigerian government to release their detained members of the group. They just don’t have blood on their hands. They have it on their souls for ever. With so many parents, siblings and family members still waiting in pain for their girls to return, will they ever be able to sleep in peace? If only they had understood that no form education can ever ruin anything.
I feel proud of the women who take a stand for themselves and want to live life on their own terms. Change is inevitable and one day things will be different as they are today or were a decade back. It’s just a matter of time. Standing up for self-respect is of utmost importance. No one has the right to treat you badly and abuse you mentally or physically. Believe in yourself and never think you are alone.
Take chances, experiment, talk about your self-worth and sit at the table. That leadership position should be yours if you deserve it and you would not even face any resistance but before complaining give your best shot. While you learn to say No and stop making any excuses for your own self, know that you are the most important person in your own life. Without being selfish – it’s I,Me,Myself.
While you will not be able be to control when others judge you, refraining from judging others will be a step forward. You were born a female and your mother held you dearly to let you go if she had that unwanted pressure from others. She may have been called unfortunate when she ran for life after marrying your dad, but know that you can survive the patriarchal society if you remain strong. If you just try and never give up.
You are an urban woman, marry by your choice, don’t let others objectify you and do not feel trapped between stereotypes that exist. You can be friends with your MIL and that does not mean you are lucky. That means you and your MIL know how to respect the relationship that you share. It is up to you.
Not everyone is lucky and many women are pushed to sex trade or shamed cos they were raped, but education enlightens everyone. Don’t just read but imbibe and add value to your being a woman. Live life as if there was no tomorrow and help those who want to bounce back. Make a difference.
If you are posed with the question about what would you do differently if given another chance at life, the answer should be nothing different from what you did in this one. And that would mean to say Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara.
I am blogging from A to Z during April (#398 on the list) and the theme I have chosen is set on women. Some of the posts will be here for you to know and some will be to reflect and accept. Share your thoughts and let me know how things are going. There is always a room for improvement.